Maybe you’re the last one of your girlfriends to start school, so you’re looking into the whole sorority thing now that you’ve heard from Jenny, Suzie and Betty who all said they went through recruitment and are having a ball.
Maybe you’re the first to go away to college, so you want to know all your options as you embark on this new life journey. After all, the world is your oyster.
Maybe you had virtually no girlfriends through high school, or at least not any that you could really stand to be around for long periods of time, so the idea of meeting new girls through a sorority ran through your mind.
Or, maybe the thought of joining a sorority sickens you to your core, but your annoying older cousin is shoving the idea down your throat so hard that you’re looking for any excuse to kindly let her down so she’ll still let you borrow her old homecoming dress.
Regardless of why you’re thinking about joining a sorority, the truth is a sorority isn’t for everyone. At the very least, not for everyone right away.
Read these 4 1/2 reasons a sorority may not be for you, or at least not for you at this moment. These reasons are not to deter hopeful candidates, but if you are going to enjoy sorority life you should be joining for the right reasons. If not, you will end up dropping, losing money and enduring heartache in the process.
Now, we all know that everyone wants to get whisked away by their own version of McDreamy, Edward Cullen or Justin Bieber at some point. For the record, joining a sorority will not guarantee you meeting that popular fraternity boy and falling madly in love. On the other hand, if the thought of falling in love right now gives you a weird rash on your neck, that’s okay. Heck, good for you! Whether you are looking for love or fun, you do not need to join a sorority to meet fraternity (or any) boys. Of course, hanging out with fraternities is all part of the fun and culture of greek life, but it shouldn’t be your sole reason to join a sorority. If it is you’ll get sick of the girls, the girls AND the boys will get sick of you, and you’ll be left alone (and probably with a bad reputation). You don’t want to be the Hester Prinn of Greek Life.
Now, before we explain #2, let us first start by saying sororities (and fraternities) can do a lot of good for your grades (see reasons to join a sorority). However, if you are coming into sorority recruitment with less than a 2.5 GPA, you may want to take at least a semester to work on boosting up your scholastic morale. This will not only better your chances of getting into the sorority of your choice, but more importantly you are in college first and foremost for an education. Take pride in your work. Now, just because you’re not a future rocket scientist doesn’t mean that a sorority will never be for you, it just means that you will need to work on prioritizing and getting help in those classes you struggle with. Once those grades raise above at least a 2.5 GPA, seriously consider joining a sorority and recognize the advantages a sorority may have on your grades.
First, let us just say that we’ve all been there: completely out of funds. Heck, we’re sort of still there! There’s a difference between a broke college student, and someone who just can’t make a sorority an option. Granted, some sororities will help you create a budget, work out a payment plan, etc. But, the bottom line is: you’ve got to pay your dues . Not to mention if you want to buy T-shirts and bags, or go on spring break trips, sisterhoods and mixers… all those extras are added expenses. Right now you’re probably seeing $$ every time you blink. If this is something you really want, you can make it happen by working and saving all summer, or whatever method works for you. If all the money you make at your three part-time jobs is put towards helping take care of your family (bless all of you out there), then a sorority probably isn’t an option for you at this time. If you’re not sure you could make this work, confide in your sounding board, talk to the greek advisor on campus, or ask each sorority about their dues and payment plans during recruitment.
There’s only 24 hours in the day, right? Some of you commute 40 minutes to campus, work multiple jobs to make ends meet, have an extremely time-consuming major, take care of your sick grandma, tutor your boyfriend’s neighbor and try to have a social life all at the same time. For you, we applaud your achievements, but we recommend not joining a sorority until things calm down. Or maybe you need to reevaluate some things in your life to see what you can combine, change, or cut-out to make time for a sorority. We all know that when you really want something, you make time for it. The fact of the matter is sororities can be extremely time-consuming, at least if you want to get anything out of them. This brings us to our final point…
4 ½. UNWILLING
Let us say it again, we all know that when you really want something, you make time for it. If you have no desire to show up to a weekly chapter meeting, participate in community service or fundraisers, take part in any social events, or the whole bit… then a sorority probably isn’t for you. Many events are voluntary, but why join if you don’t want to take part in anything? If you’re not going to build the bonds, gain leadership experience or networking opportunities a sorority is intended to help you make, then why join?
Now, don’t let this be a deterant, we just want you to be realistic. Sometimes you just need a little time to get your grades, finances, or life in order before you jump into making a commitment to a sorority. Remember if you want something bad enough, you can make it work!
Casey, Kate and Rachel
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