Our Continuous Mission

June 21, 2013

With fall recruitment right around the corner, don’t forget to encourage your sisters and PNM’s to visit our site! Here is what we’re all about:

[Our mission at Sorority Ever After™ is to assist in the success of all parties involved in the sorority recruitment process. We continuously strive to provide potential new members and active chapters with the necessary tools to navigate recruitment. Sorority Ever After’s™ ultimate goal is to help everyone find their perfect fit.]

Casey, Kate, and Rachel


Many sorority women are in the midst of planning formal recruitment. Kaity Nakagoshi reached out to us about her experience as a former Vice President of Membership that we want to share with you. We hope you enjoy her guest post. Cheers! – SEA

Guest Blogger:  Kaity Nakagoshi

Guest Blogger: Kaity Nakagoshi

Kaity Nakagoshi is a Florida native who graduated from the University of South Florida. She is a member of the Zeta Tau Alpha Fraternity and was a Sigma Chi Sweetheart. She currently works for Zelen Communications in Tampa, Florida and is looking forward to obtaining her MBA from the University of Georgia. Follow Kaity on Twitter @KaityAtZelen.

My business card may not say “Event Planner” on it, but I sure as heck can play a mean party hostess. The reason why…recruitment! Although my college days seem ancient at this point, there are certain memories that seem like they were just yesterday.

One memory in particular that always stirs up a variety of emotions for me is when I served as vice president of recruitment for my sorority. On most campuses, the recruitment process is only about five days long, but the amount of planning and preparation that goes into that one week is tremendous.

When you break it down, each day of recruitment is basically a “party” in itself. In other words, it was my job to plan and coordinate a different themed party for each day, which included everything from décor, attire, song choice, refreshments, and activities. I will openly admit that I basically slept zero hours that week, but it was worth every minute and I’d do it all over again in a heartbeat.

I always knew I had a knack for design and organization, but my attention to detail is what really came in handy. It is definitely a necessary trait for anyone interested in hosting an event. During this leadership role, I learned quite a bit about myself, and about event planning as a whole. If you are considering taking on the responsibility of planning your chapter’s formal recruitment, or if you just want to throw a sophisticated party for fun, consider the following:

Budget – If you have a set budget, be sure to stick to it. Get estimates before making final purchases and save all your receipts just in case. Learning how to budget for a big event like sorority recruitment is a great way to get hands on experience about real life budgeting.

Delegate – This is crucial and was difficult for me to grasp but I finally realized that I didn’t have a choice. It is physically impossible for one person to take on every task. If you are a control freak like myself, just be sure to give very thorough directions when you show others how to do something.

Rentals – In order to accommodate for the number of persons attending an event, and to make it aesthetically pleasing, you may need extra materials such as tables, chairs, linens, lighting, fans, and dining ware. There is no need to purchase such items for a one-time use, but fortunately you can pretty much rent anything these days, and at a reasonable cost. Make sure that the linen rental company you choose is not already booked by the other chapters on campus.

Clipboard – It seems cliché for a party planner to walk around with a clipboard, but it is a necessity. These days of course, an iPad or Tablet would suffice just fine. Ultimately, the purpose of the clipboard is to keep everything running smoothly. Write yourself little reminders and cross off things that have been completed. Organization is of the utmost importance!

Composure – As with any situation where someone you might take on a leadership role, it is imperative that you keep your cool. In other words, never let ‘em see you sweat. It is completely normal and expected for a party planner to feel stressed and overwhelmed, but the thing that sets apart the rookies from the pros is the ability to appear calm in the midst of excitement.

Event planning and party hosting are far from easy tasks, but they are manageable. I have yet to take on a project quite like vice president of recruitment of my sorority, but I am confident that when it comes time for me to start planning my own wedding, I will not need to hire a professional.


Life is a balancing act and sometimes it seems impossible to manage everything. Sorority, School and Social. These three S’s probably seem to be running your life. They can also add another S into the mix – Stress. Here are a few ways you can conquer all of them:

Get organized. Utilize a planner or to do lists. Write down when you have due dates or deadlines and figure out ways to break those big tasks into smaller ones. Set target completion dates along the way.

Plan ahead. If you know you have a big presentation coming up but want to go out of town the weekend before, get your presentation out of the way. That way you can enjoy your time away without the weight of the presentation on your mind.

Prioritize. Everything may be important, but rank what is most critical to what is least critical. Then complete tasks in order. You may have to make tough choices and understand that something may have to come off your to do list.

Reach out for help. It is easy to feel like you are over committed. Ask a sister if she could help you study or make the banner for your philanthropy event. Delegation is a great skill to practice.

Take one day at a time. We all get overwhelmed with the millions of things we feel like we have to complete. Know that tomorrow is a new day and sometimes it is better to walk away from a paper, get some much needed sleep and start fresh the next day.

Of course we know that this is easier said than done, but you it is possible to balance them all.

What do you do that is most helpful to balance everything?

Casey, Kate, and Rachel


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